I’ve been home now for just over two weeks and already the wedding planning is in full force. I have a few other considerable issues to deal with, such as finding a car and finding a JOB. So, you know, just a few small tasks. But after leaving the wedding on the back burner to deal with moving, now that I’m home I’ve started reading the magazines, looking around for reception venues and trying to get an idea of what we want this wedding to be. And suddenly it seems like we have to book everything RIGHT NOW because we’re SO BEHIND! I’ve seen timelines where at 12+ months people are booking venues and shopping for dresses. My wedding is only 10 months away and I’m just getting started! OH MY GOD MY WEDDING IS DOOMED.
And of course, everything is so expensive I just about faint every time I even think about a budget. I’ve always been a saver, not a spender. I have a very hard time spending money, particularly a lot of money. And a lot of money to me is anything more than $100. So I’m starting to get ulcers thinking about the amount of money this wedding could theoretically cost. The thing is, I’m not even paying for this wedding! Because if I was, we’d be getting married in our backyard and having a reception BBQ, because we have no money.
Most of our guests are family and close family friends, so my parents want to celebrate well and give them a good time. Which is so nice of them, I cannot fault my parents at all. My mom has been trying to get me to calm down about the money but it’s SO hard. It’s not just about the THOUSANDS that we will most likely spend, even with me trying to cut corners wherever I can. It just makes me see red whenever I see the costs that people charge just because it’s a wedding. This whole wedding industry just pisses me off so much! I hate the whole idea that we have to throw this gigantic party with flowers and food and decorations and entertainment and booze (because WOW is that expensive). And all the crap that goes with it, like matching table decorations and centerpieces and favors! Ugh, the favors. Biggest waste of money ever. We are NOT having favors. Unless I could eat it, at every wedding I’ve ever been to, I threw my favor away.
So anyway, after a mild panic this weekend, I’m seriously considering having the wedding in my parents’ backyard. It will save us SO much money, plus it will give us the control over how we choose to have our wedding. No packaged deals, no in-house caterers, no super expensive wine and boring centerpieces. I’m not sure how we’ll fit approximately 75 people in my parents’ backyard, but I’m interested in finding out if I can. Also, finding out how to ensure that 75 people have a place to pee. Most important details first.